Can This Marriage Be Saved - Working It Out
Historically marriage was a revered institution, and couples didn't enter into the holy ritual of matrimony without plenty of thought and commitment. When people agreed to stay married "until death do us part", they meant it, and they stuck with it through better and worse. No one ever thought to wonder "Can this marriage be saved?" Today too many people enter into marriage much more lightly and with the thought that if they don't like it they can always get divorced. Our society is full of questions about how to save your marriage and how to make your spouse love you again.
Can this marriage be saved? If you ask this question to any good psychologist you will definitely get a rotund YES for an answer. There are many resources for marriages that want to be saved from the hands of divorce. Therapists, psychologist, counselors, saving marriages has become a huge business. Truth is, many people get married without even being certain they love the person they are marrying, most of the time they don't even know if they like each other!
Can this marriage be saved? Yes! Make the effort to work it out - don't give up at the first difficulty or the first problematic situation. An easy and effective thing to do is just to walk away momentarily, take a deep breath and come to each situation with a clear perspective on it. Be calm; marriage really is a two-way street. You have to learn to make some compromises if you want it to work. No one can get everything they want; remember too that each one of you has the same worth.
Marriage counseling business has emerged as hugely profitable enterprise. There exists whole sort of marriage consultants, therapists, support forums to provide counseling services to newly wed couples to solve their problems and differences. These professionals are the people who can help couples restart a stable, cooperative relationship and help them save their married life.
Saving a marriage is beneficial to society. Keeping a marriage together can ensure that children are not traumatized by the separation or led into situations that require difficult and painful decisions. This prevents forcing a child not yet ready to handle this drama to choose between parents and their resources in event of a divorce. Kids from broken families are more likely to become single parents themselves, mimicking the lifestyle set forth by his own parents.
People need to see marriage for what it once was, a sacred holy union where two people have vowed to share their lives together, through thick or thin. You can't just hang up the towel every time you get bored. This isn't the way things should be. Can you save this marriage? Yes you can, if you are aware of the commitment you came into the relationship with, and you take the time to try.
Used to be, in the old days, that marriages lasted forever; "'till death do us part" actually had a binding meaning and people grew old together...for better or for worse no one went around asking can this marriage be saved. Seems like those days are over, marriages last less and less everyday and people often find themselves asking how to save my marriage? One way to save a marriage is to work it out. Negotiation is very important while working out problems. Marriage counselors help married couples work through their problems and differences. Even though they may seem expensive, they are well worth it if they can help save your marriage.
Published January 13th, 2008
Filed in Psychology
